I Want To Look Sexy Naked…

Cue Salt-N-Pepa…Let’s talk about you and me
Let’s talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let’s talk about Goals
Let’s talk about Goals
Let’s talk about Goals
Let’s talk about Goals…

Usually when I ask a client what their goals are I hear something like “I want to look sexy naked”. My first question is usually What does sexy look like naked? I can pretty much guarantee what I think is sexy naked is not what you think is sexy naked. Regardless of gender the reply is usually some form of “Like this or that person on the cover of whatever magazine”.

To which I silent groan and roll my private eyes in frustrated contempt for society and what it has done to us collectively when it comes to our bodies.

The people on the magazines are mostly not real. The ones who are real work and are hungry and tend to miss fun things like Saturday brunch and lazy Sunday and normal human interactions like their friend who just happens to be in town and wants to hang out but they have a workout scheduled so nope, sorry…Run-on-sentence-much?

Listen to me now. I have a confession, I have a little round belly, not a flat-pack . I’m a trainer, I have extensive certifications in nutrition and fitness, I own a gym that I can workout in whenever the hell I want, I eat in a way that makes me feel the best and sometimes I eat things just because I want to. In 2007 when I got started in this business I was that person I described, I did not budge. Rigid was the word most people who knew me used to describe me, and they weren’t wrong. I had a four-pack, I was lean, cut, blah blah blah. I do not look like that anymore. I am 44, I workout probably four to five days per week, I am much more focused on feeling good in my body. Does that mean I threw in the towel? Nope, not at all. I just realized that looking good naked is an ever changing frame of mind, I will never be me of 2007 again and honestly me of 2017 is pretty fantastic. I’m fun, I’m flexible, and I feel pretty darn good naked.

Enough about me though. I was watching a video of various people who lost lots of weight but were still really unhappy in their bodies. This is something that makes me so sad because, as one client put it, “If I’m not happy at 150 why would I be happy at 122?” Body happiness is a frame of mind, you’ve got to learn how to love yourself no matter what. That doesn’t mean that you give up and forget about your goals but realize that you decide what looks sexy naked, not the magazines.

So, how do you get to this magical place? Well, I can only speak for myself and share things I’ve witnessed from clients. Mostly you’ve got to stop the negative talk in your brain, get realistic in your goals, and be honest with what you really want and what you are willing to do to get there. As unfortunate as this is, there is usually some childhood trauma and/or a partner who is emotionally or physically abusive that needs to be addressed. I have a few people I refer out to in these situations, I’m happy to give their contact info just send me an email.

Remember, you are love and your body is just a shell housing you for whatever time you are here on this planet and you need to be kind to yourself. The more energy you give to any one thing the more power it has. So let’s ramp up the warm fuzzies and hug it out with ourselves.



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